The Dark Night of The Soul: The Ego Death!

What is The Dark Night of the Soul

The Dark Night of The Soul is an experience that can leave us feeling lost and confused. It can feel like the ground has been pulled out from under us, and everything that we once held dear is gone.

Spiritual darkness can be overwhelming, and it can be difficult to see any meaning in our lives. However, unlike depression, The Dark Night of The Soul is primarily an experience of our soul. It is a time when we are forced to confront the parts of ourselves that we have been trying to ignore.

We may not like what we see, but it is essential for our growth. This spiritual depression can be painful, but it can also lead us to a deeper understanding of who we are.

What is The Dark Night of The Soul?

Mystic experiences are more common now than ever. I’ve witnessed many people go through the Dark Night of the Soul and come out to the other side with profound wisdom, understanding, and clarity.

The first time I learned about this experience was when I was very young. I didn’t know the term at the time, but I was able to see it and understand the purpose of the Dark Night of the Soul.

This experience is essential for those who want to awaken spiritually. It is a process of purification and detoxification of the mind, body, and soul.

The Dark Night of the Soul can be a challenging and difficult experience, but it is also an immensely rewarding one. Those who go through it come out on the other side transformed, with a deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them.

Back then, I saw the intense suffering that my friend was experiencing as a spiritual awakening. It was more intense than any other I’ve seen since.

I was present for his pain, but it wasn’t my own experience. I felt it in my soul, though. To see life through the lens of love, our soul sometimes needs to shake our world. This is when a spiritual crisis is born.

Otherwise, we may ignore the souls incessant calling for us to return to our divinity. It can emerge on its own, as a result of spiritual instruction from a guru, or as the consequence of something distressing.

In this case, it was something painful that triggered it. Afterward, my friend was able to see life through the lens of love for the first time in his life that he could remember. The experience for him was like a cleansing and remembrance all in the same experience, it was not easy though.

It is said that everyone goes through the Dark Night of the Soul at some point in their lives. This is a sacred and harrowing period where we feel like life has lost its meaning.

We feel isolated and disconnected, not just from others but also from God and the universe. This is a time of great pain and suffering, but it is also a time of growth and transformation. In the darkness, we are forced to face our fears and shadows.

We are forced to confront the parts of ourselves that we have been hiding from. But in doing so, we also open ourselves up to new possibilities and perspectives.

We learn to trust ourselves and our intuition. We learn to listen to our hearts and follow our passion. We learn to truly know who we are.

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What Happens During The Dark Night Of The Soul?

There are many factors that can contribute to the Dark Night of the Soul. Some people may go through it after experiencing a major life event, such as the death of a loved one, divorce, or loss of a job. I have worked with many parents who have experienced this phenomenon after going through the family court system in both the UK and America.

Others may have a more minor life event that causes them to question their life purpose, such as a relationship ending or not getting the job they wanted.

Some have had a series of smaller events that have cumulatively created a feeling of disconnection from life, such as working in a job they hate for years or being in an unfulfilling relationship.

Some have been on a spiritual path for many years and reach a point where they feel they have hit a wall. They may have read all the self-help books, going to workshops and retreats, and tried every New Age modality out there, but they still, feel lost and disconnected. This can be a very confusing and frustrating time as they feel they should be further along than they are.

The one common denominator in all these cases is that the person has lost touch with their true self. They may have been out of alignment with their values for so long that they no longer know who they are or what they want in life.

The Dark Night of the Soul is a phenomenon that can occur for a wide variety of reasons. While some people may go through it after experiencing dramatic life events like the loss of a loved one or divorce, others may have more minor life events that trigger feelings of hopelessness and disconnection.

Typically, these feelings are associated with an inner struggle to reconcile beliefs and values with the external world.

At its core, the Dark Night is an experience that can be traced back to our deep spiritual nature. Some traditions call this stage “the dark night of the soul,” as it can feel like we are completely lost and disconnected from our true selves.

Yet it is precisely this feeling of hopelessness that can lead us to explore our beliefs and values more deeply, helping us to reclaim our sense of purpose in life once again. In short, while it may feel painful at times, the Dark Night can ultimately be transformative and lead us on a journey towards self-awareness and personal growth.​

The Dark Night and The Spiritual Awakening Process

The Dark Night of the Soul is a powerful and at times painful experience, but it is also an essential part of the spiritual awakening process. This process may last for days, weeks, or even years, and it is often triggered by some external event or circumstance.

During a dark night, it can feel as though it is always night and never day; each second feels unbearably long as we struggle to adapt to this new period of uncertainty and darkness.

But despite the pain and discomfort the dark night may cause, it is crucial for our growth and development as spiritual beings. With time and patience, we will emerge from these challenging moments stronger and more awakened than before.

Whether we willingly embrace it or not, the dark night of the soul spiritual awakening marks a critical turning point in our journey toward true enlightenment. So let go of any resistance you might feel towards this process, stay centered in your faith and trust in the divine wisdom that guides it all, and know that you will come out stronger on the other side.

Dark Night of The Soul Stages:

Truth: An Awakening

The first stage of the Dark Night of the Soul is recognizing one’s spiritual isolation and awakening. For many people, this comes as a sudden realization that there is more to life than meets the eye.

You may have been going about your normal routine when you suddenly felt the urge to explore your spirituality. This can be a frightening experience, as it can feel like you are losing touch with reality.

However, it is also a vital step in your spiritual journey. In this stage, you will begin to question everything that you thought you knew about life.

You will start to see the world through new eyes and understand that there is a higher power at work in the universe. This process can be painful, but it is essential for your spiritual growth.

Triggering Descent: The Fall

The fall and descent into darkness are usually triggered by an event that happens to you, and this event can be positive or negative. It could be just one event, or multiple events happening one after the other.

For example, you could meet the love of your life and then lose them. Or you could lose your home, your fortune, your health, or several loved ones.

Some people’s faith or mental stability is destroyed as a result of the Dark Night of the Soul, which serves as a catalyst. No matter what the trigger is, it will always lead to a feeling of lost hope and despair.

But despite how dark and difficult the journey may be, it is always worth it in the end. Because when you finally emerge from the darkness, you will be transformed.

The Darkest Night: The Death of The Ego

The third stage of the Dark Night of the Soul, which I call “the death of the ego”, can be an intensely difficult and painful experience.

After losing something that you deeply care for or that was essential to your identity, you will be confronted with a host of inner demons.

The triggering event is designed to force you to face a range of intense negative emotions, including anger, sadness, hatred, confusion, and depression or anxiety.

This process can be incredibly long and difficult, but it is essential for healing and transformation. In confronting your darkest fears, you will be able to move through them and emerge as a stronger, more authentic version of yourself.

One of the most difficult things about going through a tough time is feeling like you have to go through it alone. But it’s important to remember that you don’t have to – and shouldn’t try to.

During this stage, it is indicated that you get support from friends, family, and even a therapist or embodiment coach if that’s the case. Don’t be embarrassed to ask for assistance and to go to any length to get well.

Remember that this is only a phase and that it will pass, but you must take action to heal your pain. You deserve to feel better, and the people who care about you want to see you happy and healthy again. When you need assistance, reach out to obtain it…

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The Ups and Downs:

As someone who has been through the Dark Night of the Soul, I can attest that there is light at the end of the tunnel. It is a difficult and trying time, but it is possible to come out the other side.

In the aftermath of the darkness, you will start to feel better. The negative emotions will start to dissipate and you will begin to see the possibility of happiness once again.

This transition period is crucial, as it marks the beginning of your healing journey. Things will not be good overnight, but with time and effort, you can start to rebuild your life.

Remember that you are not alone – others have been through this darkness and come out stronger for it. Lean on them for support and never give up.

As you experience this path of life, you will undoubtedly have moments in which you feel like you can conquer anything. These are moments to be celebrated, for they are evidence of your growth and progress.

However, there will also be moments in which you feel as though you have regressed because something negative has resurfaced. This is not causing despair; rather, it is simply a sign that there is still more work to be done.

Remember that every step forward is a step closer to breaking out of this phase. And even when it feels like you are taking two steps back, know that eventually, you will reach a point at which you can look back and see how far you have come. You will face many spiritual challenges along the way.

New Self-Discovery:

As you start to heal old wounds and feel better, you will also positively shift your emotional state. You will develop a deeper understanding of the events that need to happen and realize that they occurred so you can become the person you’re meant to be.

Once you understand and accept this, you will reach a state of inner peace and personal power that surpasses anything you’ve experienced before.

You will be certain that you can accomplish and surpass anything. When you discover your purpose in life, you will be able to Chase your dreams and bring them into reality.

You have a lot of courage, power, and determination to make your dreams come true. You will feel your spiritual discipline begin to align with your life path.

You’re ready for it now. With this mindset, you will be able to overcome any obstacle in your way. You can do it!

Things Begin To Balance Out:

The sixth stage of the dark night of the soul is a time of balance. You will have achieved a state of harmony and equilibrium that you may not have thought possible anymore.

After you have discovered your life purpose, you will begin to build the foundations of the life that you are meant to live. This is an amazing opportunity to start all over again!

You will be able to create a life that is authentic and fulfilling, one that is in alignment with your deepest values and aspirations. This is a time of great transformation, and if you allow yourself to flow with it, you will emerge into a new and beautiful version of yourself.

When you reach this stage, it’s important to remember that you are not alone. You may not receive as much guidance from your angels and spirit guides, but you are still being supported.

This is a test of your faith and determination. It’s time for you to start acting like a creator and building the life you want. Remember that you are on the right path and that you can achieve anything you set your mind to.

Have faith in yourself and always move forward with confidence. You are being helped and supported every step of the way.

Blossoming into Your Best Version:

Now that you have been through the previous dark night of the soul stages, you are blossoming into the best version of yourself that there could possibly be.

You were devastated, you were in severe agony, your world had been destroyed, and then you endured a lot of misery before healing yourself and creating an incredible life.

You’ve learned a lot of valuable things, healed many old injuries, and broken numerous ineffective patterns – both personal and inherited. All of this has led you to where you are now – wiser, stronger, more capable, and more loving than ever before.

This doesn’t mean that life will always be easy from here on out. You will still face challenges and setbacks. But because of everything you have been through, you will be able to handle them with grace and ease. You will know how to deal with difficult situations in a way that is constructive and helpful.

Most importantly, you will have developed a deep sense of compassion for yourself and others. You will be able to see the beauty in everyone, including those who have hurt you in the past. You will be able to forgive them and yourself, and you will be able to move on.

This is the final stage of the dark night of the soul – a time of rebirth, renewal, and hope. Everything you’ve been through has brought you to this point. It has all been worth it because now you are ready to start living your best life. Congratulations!

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When The Dark Night of The Soul is Over:

After making it through the Dark Night of the Soul, many people find that they no longer fit into the old world. They have gone through such a profound change that the old way of life is no longer satisfying.

Although it can be tempting to try to go back to the way things were, it is often not possible. The best thing to do is to embrace the new life and sense of self that has been gained.

This new awareness can be used to create a life that is more fulfilling and authentic. However, some people allow their fear to rule their lives once again, even though they are now aware of it.

The choice of how to live after the Dark Night of the Soul is up to each individual. Those who embrace their new life and sense of self often find that they are happier and more fulfilled than they ever thought possible.

Though it may seem like dark times will never end, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. After the “Dark Night of the Soul,” you will continue to go through spiritual tests and learning experiences.

The illumination of the soul will tenderly lead you to the next stages and push you to your limits again and again. Our being truly has infinite layers to which we’re awakening.

Spiritual evolution doesn’t end here. Neither does it end with enlightenment. Every layer has something to teach you. So don’t give up when things get tough. Trust that your soul knows what’s best for you and keep moving forward.

If You are struggling spiritually to connect to your soul, let’s work together through embodiment coaching sessions!

Embodiment Coach Vishnu Ra
Vishnu Ra

Master Embodiment Coach |

Vishnu Ra is a Reiki Master & meditation coach with an impressive background in deep meditation. He has spent countless hours delving into the mysteries of human consciousness, and he is passionate about sharing his wisdom with others. Vishnu is also an entrepreneur and truth seeker, always on the lookout for new opportunities to explore. When he’s not sitting in meditation or teaching workshops on mindfulness, Vishnu loves being by the ocean!