Those who possess the gift of empathy have an advanced capability to sense, comprehend and share in another’s emotions. These people often demonstrate a great level of sensitivity and compassion, drawn towards assisting others.
From a narcissist’s perspective, empaths are remarkable individuals due to the special qualities they possess. People with Narcissistic personality disorder however require copious amounts of attention and admiration – their ego necessitating validation from those surrounding them.
Narcissists target people who can give them the affirmation and praise they strive for. Empaths, with their kindheartedness and sympathy, are likely especially attractive to narcissists as a source of narcissistic supply.
An empath’s empathetic nature can make them particularly vulnerable in a relationship with a narcissist. Despite mistreatment, they may still feel the urge to help and support their partner; an opportunity that the narcissist is quick to take advantage of.
Through manipulation, they are able to exploit this desire for connection and appreciation by forcing the empath into providing them with endless attention and validation.
Overall, the relationship between an empath and a narcissist can be incredibly complex and manipulative, with the empath’s sensitivities making them particularly vulnerable to narcissistic abuse. Thus, it is essential for empaths to recognize this dynamic and put measures in place to guard themselves while also establishing boundaries in these kinds of relationships.
This article will discuss why empaths, or those with a heightened level of empathy, find themselves in the crosshairs of narcissistic people and how to safeguard themselves from these toxic connections.
“Everything a Narcissist Does is to Feed The Narcissism, There is no connection to the Morality of Consciousness” -Vishnu Ra
Why Do The Narcissists Look To Identify A Particular Target?
Knowing the signs of narcissistic behavior and safeguarding yourself from its effects are integral to protecting your emotional well-being. Being mindful of potential warning signals, setting clear personal boundaries, and finding solace in reliable sources of comfort can assist you in avoiding dangerous relationships with narcissists.
Why do Narcissists Target Empaths?
Narcissists have an insatiable craving for admiration and esteem from the people around them, going to extreme lengths to obtain it. Empaths can be appealing targets for such attention due to their innate caring and compassionate natures; a perfect source of narcissistic supply that narcissists seek out.
Narcissists are experts at manipulating, and they can take advantage of an empath’s inclination to be compassionate. The narcissist may use the empath’s deep empathy to pull them into providing attention and validation – something that a narcissist desires deeply.
It is in their nature as an empath to want to understand and link with a narcissistic partner, even when maltreated. This tendency for deep understanding can make it difficult for an empath not to fall victim again and again despite being mistreated by the same person repeatedly.
This interaction can be particularly damaging for empaths, who may feel a strong sense of responsibility towards their narcissistic partner despite being on the receiving end of abuse.
Therefore, it’s pivotal that they recognize this dynamic and take measures to protect themselves by establishing clear boundaries in such relationships as the narcissist will play the victim and gaslight the Empath to make them feel like the abuser.
The Dynamics of Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse can be a complex and insidious form of abuse, often characterized by a cycle of “love bombing,” devaluation, and discard.
At the start of a relationship, narcissists may shower their victims with love, adoration, and compliments in order to make them feel special. This tactic is especially effective for empaths who naturally seek connection and are eager to assist others in need.
By providing excessive attention, these predators can easily manipulate an individual into believing they are truly loved and cared for when it’s just a superficial façade.
As the relationship matures, however, a narcissist may commence to belittle and criticize their victim with most even going as far as gaslighting them. Gaslighting is an insidious form of manipulation that causes one’s partner to doubt their own memories and perceptions – causing confusion for empaths who can’t comprehend why their loved one has changed so drastically.
Finally, the narcissist will discard their victim and find a new source of narcissistic energy. This leaves the victim feeling betrayed, lost and hurt with an intense sense of confusion. All these feelings can be overwhelming for anyone who has experienced them first-hand.
The psychological damage of narcissistic abuse is unfathomable to empaths, leaving them feeling helpless and with no self-worth.
This can lead to depression, anxiety, or a lack of confidence. In these situations it’s essential for empaths to trust their instincts; they are often the key to recognizing when something isn’t right before it becomes too late.
As Empaths, we possess an intense capacity for empathy and can normally sense when something is wrong in a relationship. Therefore, it’s essential to pay attention to our feelings and place faith in our intuition as these could be signs of narcissistic abuse that should not be ignored.
Listening to their gut and reaching out for help can be life-saving for empaths in potentially abusive relationships; a proactive approach can identify and avoid further harm before it’s too late.
Protecting Yourself as an Empath
As an empath, it is vital to heed caution and establish boundaries in relationships. Here are a few helpful suggestions for doing so:
- Establishing limits and learning to express a polite “no” is essential for any empath. Even more so in relationships with narcissists, whose manipulative tactics can be especially detrimental if you don’t set boundaries. Saying no is your right, enabling you to vocalize what serves your needs without fear of exploitation or manipulation. If setting boundaries feels difficult at first, start small until it becomes second nature.
- Nurturing a reliable support system of friends and experts is an essential step for every empath to take in order to protect themselves. Having someone who you can turn to when overwhelmed or seeking counsel, not only helps ease feelings of loneliness but also offers the much-needed resources required for self-healing from any traumas endured.
- For empaths, it is critical to discover constructive paths for expressing and satisfying their compassionate character. This might involve participating in volunteer efforts, caring for yourself first and foremost, or forming healthy relationships that grant you the opportunity to link with others positively.
By discovering healthful strategies of self-expression and gratification as an empath, you are empowered to direct your empathetic nature constructively rather than be exploited by toxic people in your life.
- Acknowledge the Worth of Your Empathy: It’s essential for empaths to recognize and embrace the power of their empathetic nature, rather than perceiving it as a hindrance. Our capacity for empathy allows us to develop meaningful connections with people, which can be advantageous in forming lasting relationships. Thus, we should take pride in our innate aptitude for empathy and acknowledge its potential influence on society at large.
- As an empath, it can be easy to forget your own needs while helping others. Establishing boundaries in relationships is fundamental to preserving and honoring yourself. When you learn how to draw the line and take care of yourself first.
You will have much more emotional energy available for those around you that need support. By setting healthy limits on what’s acceptable behavior from others and building strong standards within your relationships, you will ensure a positive influence in all of your interactions with other people.
This article revealed how narcissists can take advantage of empaths and the significance of self-care and defense in these sorts of relationships.
Empaths, with their compassionate hearts, could be susceptible to narcissistic abuse; however, by establishing personal boundaries, searching for assistance when needed, and finding wholesome ways to channel their empathetic nature – they are able to shield themselves while still being a positive influence on others’ lives.
If you are an empath who has gone through narcissistic abuse, it is essential to look for help. Working with a coach such as Coach Vishnu Ra can be helpful in restoring your self-esteem and worthiness.
Don’t hesitate to reach out if needed – resources exist that will aid your journey back to recovery and solace! You must remember: no one walks this road alone; there are always people willing to lend their support.