Healing from Narcissistic abuse is one of the most difficult forms of abuse to heal from because it can be so hard to identify. Narcissistic abuse is usually very subtle and so hideous, that people just can’t see it. Narcissists will do everything in their power to isolate you so you have no outside support.
It’s important that you know what signs of Narcissistic abuse and the indicators that you’re healing from narcissistic abuse, so let’s dive into this!
A Big indication that you are healing from narcissistic abuse is your ability to identify the signs of narcissistic abuse. This may be hard for someone who has never experienced it before, but the more you learn about this type of abuse and what makes it different than other types of emotional or physical abuse, the easier it will become to identify.
The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse Tends
to go like this:
Are You in a Relationship with a Narcissist?
To be in a relationship with someone who is narcissistic is fragmenting. They will fragment every part of who you are into multiple pieces until you no longer recognize who you are anymore.
Narcissists see nothing wrong with manipulating and lying to others to gain control or get what they want. When you are in a relationship with a monster, you will lose your autonomy to make decisions that are best for you because your decisions are made off the lies that are used by the narcissist.
They have zero empathy, none of their behavior affects them as they carry on with living day to day as if what they do is normal. They believe the world around them is like they are. Are you with a Narcissist?
Here Are Some Signs that you are in a Relationship with a Narcissist:
The narcissist is always right, you’re wrong!
You do not feel like yourself, you have changed and it is a change that does not feel good.
How to Begin Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
When you are in an unsafe environment, it is hard to heal. You need to get away from the narcissist. If you stayed with a person who abuses you for a long time, you have typically grown accustomed to the misery of the environment.
After many months or years this, you will need the space to find yourself again. If you are with a narcissist, go no contact or minimal contact. If you have kids, try to get away from the narcissist.
If you have kids, they will be the new weapon to use to hurt you. Once you leave, it will become clear that the Narcissist hates you more than they love their own children by how they use them to get to you.
Remember narcissists cannot love anyone, and certainly do not love their children. It is a power and control issue for them.
With minimal contact, you need to see the narcissists for what they are and keep your expectations low. You can be sure that this person will try to get you back into the relationship.
But if they can’t do that, they won’t show empathy or understanding in your interactions with them. Remember do not give in and give them any EMOTIONAL reaction. This only validates their own inner narcissism.
Create clear boundaries, if you have children, keep all interactions to a minimum. You will never be able to co-parent with a narcissist, so there is no point in trying to communicate with them as if they are on the same team in raising a child. They will destroy their own children to feed their narcissism.
Create a support system around you that will help you implement some techniques to keep you in reality, remember you have experienced some of the most detrimental psychological abuse inflicted on humans. It is important to learn presence. Put together a trusted group of family or friends, or work with a coach. I have an 8-week Narccistic Abuse Recovery Program, you can see more here!
Signs You are Healing From Narcissistic Abuse
Healing will be different for every person, we are all unique with our own life experiences that will play a role in how we move beyond this monstrous experience. some may take a few weeks, others may need a few years.
As for me, I went through many changes including a dark night of the soul, and a rebirth spiritually. These experiences are life-altering, no matter how bad they got I can promise you, that there is light and you will prosper into a much more authentic version of yourself as you move beyond this nightmare.
- You are beginning to find things you enjoy again, you are no longer obsessing over the narcissist. The ever-presence of them in your mind is fading.
- You will be more in touch with your feelings. You might not need to distract yourself as much from the outer world. You are feeling the alignment with your inner world.
- You are starting to take care of yourself and implement habits that are in your best interest. Eating healthier, meditation or yoga, intentionally checking in with your inner feelings.
- Your mind is no longer wandering off living in the past, you find yourself more present.
- You are beginning to feel a sense of relief, you are seeing what a nightmare you have survived and what it has taught you about yourself.
- You are no longer afraid to talk about your experience and feel a desire to be of service to others that are experiencing this trauma.
- You are starting to trust yourself again. And I mean in a way that is intuitive. You are following what you feel more and more.
- Finally, You are Smiling more.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist is not good. For most, that have experienced an intimate relationship with a narcissist it is absolute nightmare and one of the worst acts of betrayal a human can experience by another human.
It makes your body feel like it is always fighting, running away, or freezing. You will feel better when you are not around the narcissist. Time helps, but you will have to choose to heal in order to fully understand what you have experienced.
A word from Create Higher Vibrations
The post was written to provide hope and encouragement for those who have experienced narcissistic abuse. The key is to focus on yourself and your future, and how you move into the best version of yourself from this experience.
It’s important to take care of yourself with healthy habits like meditation or yoga or other healthy habits you enjoy in order to stay grounded during the healing process. Remember–you can’t change them so it might be best if you cut off all contact altogether! For more help navigating these difficult waters, feel free to reach out to me anytime!!
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