Relationships are a big part of our lives, but are relationships worth it?
Whether you’re in one or not, it’s hard to ignore the fact that relationships shape our world and can have a profound impact on us as individuals.
The problem is that we don’t really know how much value we should place on relationships. Are they even worthwhile? Or should we just do what makes sense for us individually?
This article will help answer those questions and more by providing you with the information necessary to make good decisions about your romantic relationship.
It will also teach you how to avoid toxic relationship pitfalls so that if (when) things go wrong, there won’t be any regrets; only lessons learned from experience!
What is a Relationship?
What is this enigma we call a relationship? The esteemed Merriam-Webster dictionary paints it as a multifaceted concept, a dynamic interplay between two or more entities, be they individuals, groups, or nations. It can be a romantic entanglement, a sexual liaison, or simply a connection that binds two or more elements together.
In the realm of romance, individuals seek out relationships to satiate their emotional and carnal cravings. However, the path of love is seldom smooth. While some desires find fulfillment, others may languish in the shadows, leading to a sense of discontent.
Imagine this: two individuals, drawn together by a magnetic attraction, embark on a journey to quench their immediate sexual desires. As they delve deeper into each other’s souls, a bond forms, and they decide to explore each other’s depths further. Feelings intensify, and they decide to share a living space as they get to know each other.
At this juncture, they are satisfying their needs for companionship, understanding, and shared experiences.
However, cohabitation is a double-edged sword. While the benefits are apparent, the drawbacks, such as the erosion of personal space and the burden of considering another person in every decision, can often be overlooked.
In the honeymoon phase, couples often dismiss these limitations. Yet, as time marches on, these overlooked needs can lead to dissatisfaction, casting a shadow over the once-happy relationship.
As their lives become more entwined, dependence on each other grows, and the unfulfilled needs become a source of tension, leading to arguments and stress.
So, one might ask, is the emotional rollercoaster worth it?
Perks of Relationships:
Disadvantages of Relationships:
Why A Relationship Is Worth It?
So, now that we know what relationships are, the next thing to ask is whether are relationships worth it. What do relationships offer us that gives them value? Are they really worth sacrificing so much time, effort, and responsibility?
The answer to these questions will vary dramatically from person to person, so it’s important that you figure out these answers for yourself.
The underlying premise is that relationships give us a sense of what psychologists call “human connection.” This means that we can feel a connection to other people and derive a feeling of worth just from knowing they care about us too.
This feeling is important to all people, but having a partner in life who demonstrates this caring regularly is particularly impactful. In fact, it can even be good for us to feel connected to just one other person because the amount of stress we experience tends to decrease once we develop these relationships.
But if we’re being honest, relationships aren’t just about the “caring” aspect. People also tend to feel more satisfied with their lives when they are in a relationship.
This is because we get support not only from our partners but also from other people in our social circles; whether it’s friends or family members. The more supportive people we have in our lives, the better we tend to feel about ourselves even if our relationships aren’t going well.
People who are lonely may suffer from lower self-esteem and often think of themselves as worthless compared to others. This is because they don’t have many people in their lives who care about them.
People who lack social support are also more likely to be depressed, become intoxicated regularly, use drugs, and think about committing suicide than those with healthy relationships.
So, given everything we’ve discussed so far, it is clear that there are some benefits to having successful relationships in our lives; whether they are intimate relationships or otherwise.
What we must come to terms with is that relationships are a major time investment and they require a lot of work to sustain. There will always be some sort of emotional cost that comes along with maintaining any type of relationship.
How do Relationships Work?
When two people get together, what exactly happens? How does the relationship function from that moment on? If you ask two people who’ve been in a committed relationship for a while, they may give you very different answers to these questions.
That is because a meaningful relationship isn’t based on any (1) one specific formula or structure; there are several constants and variables involved that we simply take for granted when we get into a new long-term relationship.
We know that we all have different needs and desires in a relationship, so no two relationships function exactly alike. That said, there are certain common building blocks to every relationship that most people tend to agree on.
These include appreciation, acceptance, equality/equity (equal effort), honesty/truthfulness, intimacy (mutual understanding), respect for personal boundaries, trustworthiness/loyalty, and time management.
Relationships are built on these “ingredients” that create a recipe for a successful relationship. When the ingredients are present, people tend to feel satisfied with their relationships because they know it will work out in the end.
Relationships also allow us to bond with others in ways that we can’t do on our own. And when we have a meaningful relationship with someone, it allows us to grow as people and learn new things about ourselves in a safe environment.
However, this doesn’t mean that every ingredient is required for every type of intimate relationship; what you might need (or not) will be unique to your specific situation.
For example, if you’re in a monogamous relationship, it usually requires trust and time management because monogamy means having only one romantic/sexual partner at a time.
And for polyamorous relationships, intimacy is the most important ingredient because people are sharing more than one sexual/romantic partner with each other.
Are Relationships Supposed To Be Hard
Relationships require a lot of work and effort so it’s best to know what you need in order for your relationship to be successful. Even if we follow the recipe properly, there is no guarantee that our relationships will always work out in the end.
There are times when people leave their partners for better opportunities or just because they fall out of love.
We often hear people say that relationships are hard and this makes us wonder if it’s even worth all the effort we put into them. Here at Create Higher Vibrations, we fully understand how difficult things can get as relationship partners go through different struggles, but our personal opinion is that relationships are definitely not a waste of time.
There are different reasons why we keep going back to a relationship even if it’s not easy. First of all, no one ever said that relationships were meant to be easy and there will always be problems that need to be addressed. We simply choose to give our best in making the person we love happy.
Secondly, no matter how difficult things get, we still have a lot of love for each other and this is what keeps us going. We care about our relationship partners so much that we give our all to make the relationship work out.
Lastly, there are just some people who did not enter into a relationship with the intention of giving up on it easily. These types of people accept the fact that they’re in a relationship for a good reason and they won’t let anything get in their way. True love is worth waiting for!
If you still think that relationships are hard, then try to look at them from another perspective. When you really like someone and the right person likes you back, nothing is difficult. All you have to do is pay attention to what this person needs and you will be fine.
Another good thing about relationships is that it shows us how much we are able to give because being with someone can take a lot out of us especially if the other person is not always easy to work with. The key is to always put your best foot forward and do everything you can to keep things working even if it means compromising.
How Relationships Change Over Time
The start of a new relationship with a romantic partner is exciting and fun, but what about after that initial high has faded? How do most relationships change over time? How can you make sure your relationship doesn’t fade away?
Now, to describe how these relationships change over time, it seems like there are three main changes that occur between people in a long-term relationship. The first is large life events or milestones. Some examples of milestones are stepping into marriage, having children, and buying a house together.
These large changes can really shake up your life and you might notice that some of the routine things about your relationship change after this happens. Another way relationships change over time is through conflict.
How conflict affects relationships may depend on who you’re talking to but many people have noticed that conflicts can often lead to deeper and more intense feelings for their partners.
This is because that conflict causes people to really pay attention and focus on each other, which can trigger intense emotions. Lastly, the everyday actions you take with your partner also contribute to how relationships change over time.
How you interact with your partner on a daily basis will definitely change as the relationship ages, and you might even notice that the way your spouse interacts with you changes as well.
How relationships change over time can be negative or positive depending on who you ask and what situation they’re in, but it is definitely an inevitable part of growing as a person. Are You growing together or are you growing apart…
Relationships May Never Be Perfect
So, what can you do to try and prevent your relationship from fading away? The best thing you can do is to work on your communication skills. If both partners in a relationship communicate well and share their feelings with each other, the less likely they will be to go through these negative changes that were just described.
And we must remember that the most compassionate part of communication is actually listening to what each other is saying, not what you want to hear, but what they are actually saying.
When you can Listen, it takes communication to a new level of understanding each other, and from there you can make the best decision for yourself and your partner. and how the relationship will evolve.
Another way you can help is to make the relationship safe. You and your partner should feel a sense of safety to express what you feel, think, and do with each other. This could include anything from feeling like you can go out with your friends to feeling like you can try something new in the bedroom.
If you and your partner don’t feel safe in your relationship- if one of you feels like they aren’t allowed to express themselves without fear of judgment or punishment – then it could be a sign of a bad relationship and things are going downhill.
Why More People Are Opting Out of Relationships
Has the world become much too complicated for relationships?
The answer just might be yes.
With the uprise in Narcissism and the epidemic of inner trauma, relationships have become quite complicated, misunderstood trauma and narcissism will lead to failed relationships.
Even with the advent of social media, people are still feeling alone and isolated.
Some studies suggest that 40% of Americans would rather go to a dentist appointment than have a date night. Why?
Studies have shown that relationships actually do become more complicated as we age. As we get older relationships tend to become more difficult.
And with so many people opting out of relationships, it may be safe to say that they’re just not worth it.
People are choosing the single life over the complicated life of ‘trying’ to fix another human being’ or fix themselves for their partner.
But what about those who do decide to stick it through, is it all truly worth it?
Not just for the sake of our sanity, but is it also worth it to stick around because we love our partner? Do we actually understand unconditional love?
That’s a question we should be asking ourselves. It’s probably best we figure this out sooner rather than later. So let us ask and answer these pressing questions:
Here’s a thought:
Maybe before trying to fix someone or being fixed by them, we should both take a good hard look in the mirror.
You don’t need to be a Saint, but you do need to get honest about who you are and what your relationship is worth.
Relationships aren’t meant for fixing people or being fixed by them. We’re not here on Earth to fix anyone, we’re here to live, love, and learn from each other. There is no perfect person so the first reflection the mirror may show you is the expectations you have that other human beings can fulfill what your mind expects from them.
So if you’re not feeling it yourself then let them go. If you’ve tried everything and nothing seems to work then let them go. Letting go is a part of life – it’s how we learn – so just do it already! And remember that even if you do let go, life is long and relationships are short.
If it’s meant to be then it will happen. If not, then maybe the next relationship will be better for you both. Relationships aren’t just there to fix anything or anyone.
They exist to help us grow, love ourselves, and grow with someone. If you or your partner are looking for fixing, then maybe what’s wrong, is the relationship itself.
Maybe it needs to end so that both of you can find better partners who will not only love you but love themselves as well. It’s time to stop giving people second chances just because we’re afraid of being alone.
It’s time we all started valuing our own happiness and self-worth, and maybe even start loving the person we’re with enough to let them go if it means they can be happy too.
You can’t hate yourself and love anyone else. If you don’t love who you are and what you’re doing why would anybody else?
It’s about self-respect and self-love. We can’t find it in ourselves to love ourselves so how could we ever expect someone else to love us unconditionally?
Answer: They won’t, because they shouldn’t have to!
So let go of the people who are looking for fixing, and look within yourself to understand who you are and what is best for you.
Figure out if your relationship is worth it or if it’s just time to let go already.
Remember that letting go doesn’t mean you have failed, but instead means that you’re learning from the past and getting ready for a brighter future.
Most importantly remember that you’re not here to fix anybody or be fixed by them; we’re all just trying to live, love, and learn from each other!
A word from Create Higher Vibrations
As relationships continue to evolve, there are many questions that arise. Do they have to be difficult? Why do so many people opt out of long-term commitments? How can you make your relationship stronger and more fulfilling?
There are answers—and actionable steps you can take now. If you are at crossroads, Join me for a session today!
The relationships you have with your friends, family, and significant others will all change and grow over time. You may find yourself in new roles, or your relationships may simply change in nature.
Whatever the case may be, evolution is a natural part of relationships. Just as you change and grow over time, so do your relationships. They are ever-evolving and dynamic, so it’s important to be open to change.
After all, relationships are what make life interesting and vibrant. Embrace the evolution of your relationships and let them take you on a journey.