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Have you ever looked back and wished you would have seen the Relationship Red Flags before spending years with the wrong one!!

What can be more frustrating than being in a relationship with someone who is not right for you? It’s hard to admit when things are going wrong, but there are some red flags that you should never ignore. Read on for 16 of the most common ones.

1. You feel bad about yourself in the relationship…

There is nothing worse than having to deal with a partner who treats you poorly. If you’re constantly left feeling bad about yourself and your life, it’s time to reconsider things. A healthy relationship will make you feel good about yourself and your world. There should be no room for criticism or put-downs.

2. You don’t trust the person…

If you can’t fully trust your partner, it’s a clear sign that things aren’t right. If you’re constantly looking over your shoulder in fear that they are going to do something to hurt you or betray you, there is little hope for a resolution.

The best thing you can do is leave them and find someone who makes you feel safe. While in this process, love and heal yourself enough so that if someone does betray you, you have the wisdom to handle it in a way that will not be destructive to your inner being.

3. You constantly fight about the littlest things…

It’s hard to enjoy yourself when you’re always having heated arguments with your partner. At best, it drains your energy and at worst, it stresses you out so much that it impacts your ability to function well in your other relationships and in work. You’re not going to have a happy life with someone who constantly makes you fight unnecessarily.

4. They don’t like your friends and family…

5. You don’t feel inspired by them…

It’s hard to improve yourself when the people around you never push expectations or goals on themselves, so look out for signs that they will never grow – no matter how long you stay with them now .all areas of your life.

If there is conflict in every area of your relationship, from the mundane to the important issues, then it may be time to let go of your hopes for happiness together.

It will most likely never work out between you two because any resolution just leads to more fighting and bad feelings later on down the line. A healthy relationship doesn’t have constant conflict or disagreements over tiny issues.

6. You are unhappy in the relationship…

This may sound obvious, but it is one of the most common reasons that people stay in a relationship for longer than they should have. Don’t continue to make yourself miserable by staying with a partner who makes you feel unfulfilled and trapped.

Even if you don’t think you can find anyone better right now, at least aim to be happy alone so that when an amazing person comes along, later on, you’ll recognize them and know what to do next.

Aim for happiness and peace in your life first, before even thinking about others’ happiness or whether they will like You. It’s not worth spending time on someone else if they can’t add value or bring joy into your life.

7. You find yourself constantly doubting their loyalty or trustworthiness…

If you’re constantly wondering about your partner’s reliability, it could be a warning indicator that they are not as trustworthy as they seem to be. It can be difficult to spot at first because some people are good at hiding their real intentions, but if you feel this way and you don’t like how it makes you feel, you should never settle for someone who cannot make you happy and confident in the relationship.

If you can’t see things improving, then start looking toward the exit door now! Your ex-partner is just draining your energy away from better relationships that await. A healthy relationship shouldn’t leave room for constant doubt and questioning of loyalty and trustworthiness.

8. They don’t like your goals or dreams and constantly undermine them…

When someone undermines your hopes, dreams, and future plans without offering a good reason why they shouldn’t be achievable, then it’s time to take a step back and reassess what you’re doing in the relationship. A potential partner should support your needs, hopes, and aspirations for the near future as well as the long term; not try to stamp out everything that makes You happy about yourself entirely.

A relationship is supposed to enhance both people’s lives – so if your partner isn’t helping you grow or reach your full potential (maybe even just their idea of what’s possible for You), then leave them behind! There is plenty of other fish in the sea, and you can do better than feeling stuck or trapped with someone who wants to keep you small. I have been here with a Narcissist, so I know firsthand what this feels like.

9. They’re too critical of everything about You…

If your partner constantly critiques everything you do, then they never really see your true self as a whole person. If they don’t like something about You – no matter how tiny – then they refuse to accept it and will try their hardest to change it. This is not healthy for any relationship because there should be room for both people’s opinions and feelings in every part of life together.

Even if this person has issues with themselves, that doesn’t mean they have the right to bring down other people in order to feel better about themselves! It’s never okay to humiliate or degrade someone else.

If they constantly criticize You and refuse to let anything go, then that is not a good sign for the future of your life together.

A healthy relationship should bring out the best in both people and not make one person feel bad about themselves for existing and being who they are.

Red flags in a relationship you should never ignore

10. They become defensive when you bring up their bad habits…

A good partner is one that’s open to changing their current lifestyle for the better and making you happy; not someone who gets upset and angry with you just because they’ve been called out on something negative about themselves.

If your partner can’t handle having a vulnerable conversation about how they’re not perfect and want to change, then they should’ve spoken up a long time ago.

A partner who gets angry when You bring up an issue in the relationship is one that’s only going to hurt you more as time goes on. If your partner can’t even handle this basic aspect of healthy conversation with You, then why are you staying together?

If your partner doesn’t want to be criticized for their own faults or bad habits – no matter how small or major – then they don’t really care about what You need out of the relationship; just themselves.

11. They’re hyper-critical of everything about You…

It’s okay for both people in a relationship to share opinions from time to time, but neither of you should be super critical of everything about the other person. That’s not healthy for a relationship to thrive in the long run, especially if it becomes more than one voice constantly picking apart everything that doesn’t go right.

You’re supposed to make each other feel happy, safe, and accepted for who you are; not constantly on thin ice and scared that you’ll say or do something wrong at any moment! If someone is always hyper-critical of You to the point where they never compliment anything about yourself – then it’s definitely time to reevaluate your life together with them.

12. They don’t trust You easily…

It can take some time for two people in a relationship to build up trust together – but once there, this trust should be something stable that makes the relationship last. If your partner always thinks You have ulterior motives for doing the things you do, then they’ve clearly got their own issues going on and are trying to make excuses for them by taking it out on You. (This is a relationship red flag) There’s a difference between not trusting someone at first and never being able to trust them no matter how many times they prove themselves innocent.

If your partner still doesn’t trust You easily or quickly after making changes in yourself – then they’re only holding You back from having a healthy partnership with them. Chances are they do not trust you because they are not trustworthy themselves. Time to move forward and onward!!

13. They hold grudges forever…

It’s normal for anyone to get mad at each other every now and then; but if you can’t ever forgive your partner for something they’ve done, then you’re definitely in the wrong relationship. Life is too short to be stuck holding onto a grudge against someone who has already apologized and completely changed their behavior to better suit You.

If your partner can’t let go of something that hurt them deeply, especially if it was their fault or careless mistake – then they’re only going to hurt themselves with the negativity they have inside of them.

Never stay with someone whose heart is closed off from what they need; because when love starts closing up, just like fear does – it’ll eventually shut down forever.

14. They are always checking up on You or snooping around…

If your partner is always giving You a hard time about where You are and who You’re with, even if they know it’s harmless and nothing is going on – then they don’t have any respect for Your privacy. A relationship should never be about keeping tabs on the other person but building trust in them instead.

If a partner really loves and respects You, then they’ll never try to keep track of all your whereabouts or constantly invade your personal space. If someone is still checking up on You all the time or going through your phone while You’re not around – then they don’t have any trust in You at all, and it is time to stop wasting time with people that will not face their own internal issues.

15. They don’t stop once you ask them to…

If someone has done something that bothers You and you’ve told them multiple times to stop – then this behavior should be totally over once you and your partner have had this discussion.

If the other person continues to do what they’ve been asked not to, even when it’s clear You don’t like it anymore – then this is abuse! These kinds of situations mean that someone doesn’t really respect or care about You after all, but only themselves.

It’s true that relationships can get pretty heated sometimes, but this means you should never be forced into doing something against your will by Your partner.

Never stay in an abusive relationship with anyone who won’t stop hurting themselves -or- hurting You no matter how much time has passed since the incident.

16. The final relationship red flag is: They make you feel stupid or dumb…

Some of the worst people on the earth in this day and age will try to manipulate and gaslight you into feeling dumb, stupid, or not good enough for them.

Some of the worst people on the earth in this day and age will try to manipulate and gaslight you into feeling dumb, stupid, or not good enough for them.

Without a doubt, these kinds of people exist in reality; they go by Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Psychopaths and they are a real epidemic in our world right now, as more and more people are getting entangled with these creatures.

Don’t fall for their tricks! This is not a relationship you want to be in at all, no matter what they say or how much they pretend to care about you (when in fact it’s the opposite). People who try to make you feel dumb or stupid have low confidence, and low self-esteem, and are pretty much disconnected from themselves and they will not change for anyone.

If you have experienced or believe you are experiencing a relationship with a Cluster B personality-disordered person, I recommend the book Psychopath Free.

Final Thoughts…on Relationship red flags…

Whether you’re single or not, it’s still important to take note of these relationship red flags so that you can keep yourself out of harm’s way. Sometimes, we let our emotions get the better of us and don’t realize how toxic someone can be until after we’ve gotten involved with them (or vice versa).

The situations above may seem harmless at first when they’re written down on paper, but as soon as you start putting yourself into each one, it becomes clear why they could make for bad scenarios:

It is easy to diminish your initial feelings in order to keep another person happy. Don’t do this if something doesn’t feel right. If someone is abusive or excessively controlling, your gut instinct will eventually guide you to walk away.

You might feel guilty after walking out on a long-term relationship, but remember that you don’t deserve to be treated badly by anyone.

Life is short and our time here is temporary, spend it with those that will elevate you and love you, the way you love life! Also, don’t hesitate to self-reflect and create change within yourself as well, we are all perfectly imperfect and have room to grow as well.

Namaste