Top 13 Relationship Behaviors That Will Ruin Relationships!!
Let’s Take a Dive into Some Relationship Behaviors…
When we first start a relationship, everything feels perfect. We’re excited and energized by our partner, and nothing seems like it could go wrong. However, over time that feeling can change.
The flame that was once so hot starts to fade, and what used to make us feel good now drains our energy levels. It’s important to remember these 13 things not to do in order to keep the relationship healthy and strong.
As we all know, relationships are the foundation of every successful individual. However, it is very important to maintain them in order to avoid any possible damage. This is why it is extremely important for one to take into account their mistakes and behave responsibly in order to maintain a good relationship.
Although both parties should work together to maintain the relationship, one’s behavior can sometimes be too toxic that it will just damage the good relationship beyond repair.
The Top 13 Relationship Behaviors that Will Kill a Relationship…
Live Your Own Path
There are certain actions that might destroy a connection. Being too clingy, for example, can make your partner feel smothered and can lead to issues with your self-worth.
It’s important to have your own passions and interests so you stay in alignment with yourself. This will make you more attractive to your partner and they’ll likely want to spend more time with you. So be careful not to let your relationship control or define who you truly are.
Give Your Phone a Break
It’s very easy to pay more attention to our phones than to our friends and partners in today’s culture. Even when we’re supposed to be spending quality time with them, for example, while out for supper or even when they’re attempting to talk to us.
Talking on the phone when you are supposed to be spending time with your partner is bad. You can’t talk and look at your phone at the same time. It’s going to irritate your partner and ruin your relationship.
Please try not to use your phone during times when you should be spending time with your partner. If you’re out for a meal or even when they’re trying to talk to you, so let’s put the device down! It’s really frustrating for somebody who wants to have a proper conversation with their partner.
Insecurity Will Kill a Relationship…
Insecurity may destroy a relationship. One of the most common reasons relationships fail is because one person believes they are not deserving of being with the individual they are with. Insecurities can drive an otherwise reasonable person insane. It’s time to call it if you’re concerned about your partner’s trustworthiness and he or she has yet to demonstrate it.
If you feel like your relationship is not as good as it should be, then you need to figure out what is making you feel that way. It could be because of something from the past or someone who makes you feel bad about yourself. Insecurities will make the relationship worse and will never make it better. You need to fix this for the sake of your relationship.
Take Care of Yourself…
Relationships thrive on communication and personal growth. Neglecting exercise, appearance, and things you know you should be doing to better your life can come across as if you don’t have any ambition or focus on improving yourself. Not to mention, if you aren’t putting any effort into your own life, you probably aren’t putting much effort into your relationship either.
Not Being Honest…
Being dishonest can ruin a good thing you have with someone. Telling a little white lie once in a while doesn’t make you a bad person. I mean we all do it. It could be that you are telling a lie to avoid hurting someone’s feelings. Then again, lying to cover up things you don’t want your partner to find out about because you know how they would react could very well damage your relationship with that person.
Not being honest with your partner can lead to lying to yourself. If you are holding on to something that you know they would not like, then it’s time to come clean before things get any worse!
Complaining All The Time…
Complaining all the time can have negative consequences in a relationship. It can make your partner resent you and make them not want to do anything to please you. Showing appreciation towards your partner can help reduce any resentment and make them more likely to do things to please you.
Trying To Change Them…
You can’t change other people, and you certainly can’t transform yourself for someone else. Don’t attempt to make your partner someone they aren’t; it rarely works and if it does, they will revert to their original self in time. This is why it’s more important to appreciate someone for who they are rather than attempting to alter them into what you want them to be.
Relationships are about, give and take, not just take. If you’re always taking but never giving back, you’ll end up lonely in the future because everyone will want to be with someone who treats them well. Give your relationship some time, energy, and effort – don’t expect it to develop for free.
Not Showing Enough Love…
This can be damaging to the relationship because you’ll become too comfortable with your partner and show less affection. Another thing to avoid is spending too much time together. You may feel less interested in seeing your partner after you’ve had a quarrel. This can decrease the affection you have for them. Make sure to rekindle the fire by demonstrating excitement for your spouse when they first come into view that day.
Don’t Be Too Possessive…
Research shows that possessiveness in a relationship is actually healthy (in small doses). However, if you parody this trait by becoming way too clingy and needy it is highly likely your partner will want to break up with you.
Relationship expert Steven Ward was quoted saying, “Possessiveness becomes an issue when it’s so severe as to be limiting. If someone’s possessiveness starts making them try to limit who their partner sees, how much time they spend with other people, and wanting to monitor where they go and who they speak with – that is not healthy.”
Avoid Relationship Drama…
Spreading all your relationship business across the world of Facebook may be tempting, but it’s often the source of needless “relationship drama.” Relationship experts refer to this as bringing your personal business to work with you.
People are included in your life for a reason and taking unnecessary risks will only make them want to distance themselves from you. Relationship expert David Bennett backs this up by saying, “There is a difference between sharing your relationship status and actually telling someone who actually knows you, your business. If your business is not their business, do them a favor and don’t tell them.”
Not Expressing How You Feel…
If you don’t express how you feel, your partner might not be able to understand what’s wrong. This can lead to negative emotions like jealousy, resentment, and paranoia.
If you stockpile your negative emotions, it can also lead to a breakdown in communication. Your partner might even start to feel like you don’t trust them. However, if you express your feelings to your partner, it can actually lead to a stronger connection between the two of you.
Being a Control Freak or even Covertly Controlling…
Control freaks often use mind games in a relationship and will have you playing their games before you know it. If a controlling person can make their partners feel guilty often enough, then the controlling person’s work is pretty much done for them.
Their partners will gradually give up power and their own opinions within the relationship just so they no longer have to feel guilty. This is no longer a relationship, but an abusive relationship!
Relationship behavior is something that should be discussed and agreed upon with your partner, not imposed. If you find yourself doing any of these 13 things in a relationship to the point where it’s becoming toxic for both parties involved, consider making some changes.
Relationship behavior should never involve mind games or covert control tactics because this will only lead to resentment and loss of trust along with more and more unhealthy behavior.
Communication skills are vital in order to successfully navigate through tough moments without hurting each other’s feelings or stifling individuality.
Trust and open dialogue can help create an environment where two people can grow together while maintaining their independence as individuals who just happen to love one another dearly!
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